Afaf Matrimonials

About Us

“O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one’s chastity.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5065)and Muslim (1400).

Afaf means purity in Arabic and the aim behind Afaf Matrimonials is to encourage the generation of today to get married the correct Islamic way inshaAllah. Afaf Matrimonials was originally approved in, set up and launched in Regents Park Mosque/The Islamic Cultural Centre in 2009 and has been independently run online since late 2010. It is the only marriage service that was given permission to run there due to its Islamic and genuine nature. We re-launched it online in 2015 so that we could reach out to more Muslims on a larger scale. We have provided this matrimonial service that holds onto Islamic values and follows the Sunna of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). 

Our service is for those who do not have the community and family support to find a suitable spouse. Many women do not get proposals, simply because their families do not know people or they do not live in Muslim communities, so Afaf gives single women in particular the chance to be acknowledged and known by the community. It can be difficult to find the right kind of partner due to many cultural and Islamic restrictions in the UK in particular, as well as most people being very shy or reluctant to approach the other for marriage. 

Afaf has been set up for single Muslims who are finding it difficult to meet a spouse in a halal environment, those who do not wish to join open marriage events or free mix in social events. Afaf encourages men to approach women in a halal way through the Wali [male guardian] first. It will solve many problems that are caused when being able to freely communicate with eachother without consulting or involving the Wali beforehand. We are trying to encourage men to make the Wali the first point of contact in the marriage process and this has many benefits. It saves a lot of time, is very respectful towards the girl's family, is Islamic and also proves ones sincerity and intentions. Being able to freely communicate with eachother beforehand results in many emotional attachments and problems. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) encouraged men to speak to the Wali of a woman he is interested in for marriage and then to see her face to face to see if they are compatible and to take it from there if they both like eachother.

By getting married, you will be protecting yourself, lowering your gaze and closing the door to one of the greatest means by which the shaytaan deceives people. You may not feel the seriousness of that now, but fitnah [trials and temptations] may come from places a person does not realize, so you should be keen to close the door before it is opened.

Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (20/421): "What is required is to hasten to get married, and no young man or young woman should delay marriage for the sake of studies and work, because marriage does not prevent any such thing...Delaying it is harmful for both young women and young men, and so every young man and every young woman should hasten to get married if there is a man who is compatible with the woman, and if a man can find the right woman."